Stop being your partner's
reminder system.
issho manages the mental load so you can be partners again. Not parent and child.
Join the Alphaissho (一緒) is Japanese for "together"
THE REAL PROBLEM
"I don't want to manage my partner's life.
I just want a partner."
When one partner has ADHD, the other becomes the household manager. Tracking every task, sending every reminder, carrying the invisible weight. A survey of 1,256 couples found one partner thinks they do 71% of the work — the other estimates 40%. It's not laziness vs. nagging. It's two people trapped in a dynamic neither chose.
The neurotypical partner thinks:
"If I stop managing everything, nothing happens. I can't turn it off. I'm exhausted, but I can't stop."
The ADHD partner thinks:
"I try so hard, but it's never enough. I want to help, I know what to do. My brain just won't let me start."
58%
of non-ADHD partners feel like a parent in their own relationship
69%
of ADHD couples have considered separation or divorce over household conflicts
0
to-do apps built for how ADHD couples actually live and work together
THE SOLUTION
The app reminds. Not your partner.
issho isn't another to-do list. It's a shared space. A calm place to capture what needs doing, decide together, and take care of your home at your own pace. No list of 10 tasks where 8 feels like failure.
Energy-Adaptive Tasks
A 30-second check-in sets the tone for your day. Low energy? You'll only see small, manageable tasks: wipe a counter, put one thing away. High energy? Bigger tasks unlock automatically. The app adapts to your energy, not the other way around.
AI Micro-Steps
Type "Clean the bathroom." AI breaks it into concrete 2–5 minute steps. No planning, no preparing. Just start.
Photo-to-Tasks
Staring at a messy room, paralyzed? Snap a photo. AI generates 3–5 tasks with effort levels and micro-steps. From overwhelmed to a plan in seconds.
Body Doubling & Co-Clean
Start a focus timer for yourself. Your partner can join instantly or start a co-clean: pick tasks, set a timer, finish together, earn a team bonus.
Invisible Work, Made Visible
Grocery lists, vet appointments, coordinating the plumber. Mental labor tracked and valued equally. Both partners see the full picture.
Grow Your Shared Home
Complete tasks together and watch your virtual garden bloom. Come back after a week — it's right where you left it. No pressure, just growth.
HOW IT WORKS
Three steps to a calmer home.
Set up your household
Name your home, invite your partner with a code, pick your rooms and areas. Under 2 minutes. Because ADHD brains lose interest in setup flows after 90 seconds.
Check in each morning
Tap a 5-level energy picker. Your otter curls up tired or bounces with excitement. Low spoons? Only micro-tasks appear. High energy? Everything unlocks. Your pace, always.
Let issho carry the load
AI breaks tasks into micro-steps. Smart reminders land at the right time. Co-clean sessions let you tackle the house together. The app remembers so your partner doesn't have to.
BUILT DIFFERENT
Designed to feel good.
Built by ADHDers, for ADHD couples. Every detail shaped by what actually helps.
THE VISION
From household tool to relationship companion.
issho starts with household management. But the vision goes further. Toward an app that truly understands neurodivergent relationships.
Now · Alpha
The core loop
Energy check-ins, AI micro-steps, photo-to-tasks, body doubling, co-clean sessions, shared garden, and appreciation.
Beta
Deeper understanding
Weekly check-ins, Pause & Pivot for conflicts, extended garden with seasons. Android & dark mode.
Launch
Beyond the household
ADHD psychoeducation, coach & therapist integration, prescription-eligible status in Germany.
Scale
The relationship companion
Smart home, Apple Watch, therapist portal, and internationalization.
WHY WE BUILD THIS
From the founders.
"She shouldn't have to remind me. That's why I'm building the thing that does."
Leon, Founder
"We needed a neutral place to see what was really happening. Once the invisible work became visible, everything changed."
Klara, Partner
FROM THE COMMUNITY
Real words from ADHD couples.
"I wasted years thinking I was going crazy. The only reason we're still together is that I finally stopped trying to change him and found systems that work WITH his brain."
– NT partner, r/ADHD_partners
"I try so hard, I swear, but I just can't seem to get it right. Everything feels overwhelming. No version of me feels like the one that's good enough."
– ADHD partner, r/AdhdRelationships
"Rather than one person reminding the other all the time, there should be an external reminder that was mutually agreed on. That changes everything."
– Couples therapist, r/ADHD
Help us build what you've been waiting for.
We're building issho with real ADHD couples. Not for them, with them. Answer a few questions and join the alpha.
Join the AlphaTakes about 30 seconds. No spam, ever.